Colleen’s work is based largely upon the basic principles of Imago Relationship Therapy developed by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt. They are as follows:
We were born happy and complete.
We became wounded during the early nurturing and socializations stages of our development by our primary caretakers.
We have a composite image of all the positive and negative traits of our primary caretakers deep in our unconscious mind. This is called Imago. It is like the unconscious blueprint of the one we need to be our partner in a committed, intimate relationship.
We look for someone who is an “Imago Match,” that is, someone who matches up to the composite image of our primary caretakers. This is important because we marry or commit for the purpose of healing and finishing unfinished business of childhood.
Romantic love is the door to a committed relationship and/or marriage and is nature’s way of connecting us to the perfect partner for our eventual healing.
We eventually end up in a “Power Struggle.” It is here we often stay too long or perhaps for a lifetime. Approximately 50% Divorce.
The goal of Imago Therapy is to align the conscious mind with the agenda of the unconscious mind. Insight alone will not repair the hurt. Specific skills and processes are necessary and must be practiced daily.
It takes commitment, courage, and love to create a safe, loving, and passionate relationship.